Alexandra Fuller Quotes

  • In ways I don't entirely have the words for, an experience, thought or a lesson isn't real for me until I've written down.
  • I am becoming increasingly difficult to please as a reader, but I adore being surprised by a really wonderful book, written by someone I've never heard of before.
  • Being a white southern African who saw the transition from Rhodesia to Zimbabwe, the sense of being an outsider was absolutely instilled in my limbic system.
  • I always knew mum loved me - tough, look-after-yourself love, as if she knew she wouldn't always be there.
  • I think there's a big difference between loving someone out of duty and dependency and loving someone because you really are able to sort of grow and be whole in the context of that relationship.
  • There is no way to order chaos. It's the fundamental theory at the beginning and end of everything; it's the ultimate law of nature. There's no way to win against unpredictability, to suit up completely against accidents.
  • I write and I read, and I write and read my way into and out of ideas and life. And that's what we do. That's what storytellers do.
  • It seems very clear to me that we, in the West, cannot afford to continue assuming propriety over the world's resources in a careless, greedy way without paying for it - not only with the lives of our loved ones, but also with our souls.
  • Marriage is the trickiest and most basic contract that we have.
  • I remember Karoi as a very hot, flat place, but in reality, it is all hills. We just lived next to an airstrip - the only flat piece of land around. That was my world as a three-year-old and sums up the indelible power of memory to a young child.
  • For a memoir to really succeed, the author has to do such hard work before they come to the page. They have to do a brutal self-examination of everything they believe to be true.
  • I think for writers, I think it's really important to court eviction from your tribe: to expose things and to wake people up. And so I think that that can feel like a violation to the people you love the most.
  • I did try to write fiction. I wrote 10 novels. And they were all just awful.
  • I adore my family. I don't love their politics. I think they're wonderful parents. They were dreadful at parenting.
  • There's a point at which writing a book, or a long article, begins to feel like mental labor, and it's too painful to connect in the world in any real way mid-process. The only way to survive is to write until it is all said and done.
  • Being a writer but also having been raised the way I was, I tend to turn to books for answers.
  • I want to make words out of life. That's bigger than me. That's as big a creative force as - bigger than, for me, even having children. That felt more accidental - wonderful, but accidental.
  • I love my mother so much, because I see the whole of her.
  • The memoirs that have come out of Africa are sometimes startlingly beautiful, often urgent, and essentially life-affirming, but they are all performances of courage and honesty.
  • I listen mostly to classical music.
  • In general, I almost always watch foreign films.